2025-01-29 – Health – www.theguardian.com
It’s been like this for most of our 10 years together. I’m getting a little frustrated
My partner has little interest in foreplay and wants to move quickly to the main event. This nearly always consists of standard straight vanilla sex: penetrative, usually missionary. She reaches orgasm very rapidly – nearly always before I’m anywhere close – after which she immediately loses all interest. She does manually bring me to climax, but I don’t feel close to her at that moment. Then she gets on with her day, or goes to sleep.
We have been together 10 years and this pattern dates back to early in our relationship. I am increasingly frustrated: while we have sex relatively often and the early stages are pleasurable, I almost never have a really good orgasm. This is having an effect on our relationship more generally. We have talked about it a lot (my partner would say too much), but she can’t seem to see the problem.
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