2025-08-26 – Health – www.theguardian.com
I’m 64 and have had many lovers, but I can now only climax through masturbation, and frequently find myself faking it in bed
I am a 64-year-old single man and have had more than 30 sexual partners in the 15 years since my divorce. However, I haven’t achieved orgasm by any means other than masturbation in years. It doesn’t matter what my partners try, I can’t climax, and I frequently fake orgasms because they get frustrated and I get tired. I was diagnosed with multifocal motor neuropathy several years ago, and my penile sensation is definitely diminished. Using a condom makes it worse, but I comply with a partner’s wishes for our protection. Even with masturbation and visual stimulation via pornography, it may take me more than 30 minutes to have an orgasm. I know there is a lot to unpack here, but what do you suggest?
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